| 41s | Hi, I'm concerned about my mum who is 80 |
| 45s | She had a stroke about 16 months ago which gave her double vision |
| 51s | She's having a cataract operation next week |
| 54s | and she's getting very forgetful and making a lot more errors than normal |
| 61s | and will continue to drive myself and family |
| 64s | I'm very concerned about this |
| 65s | We've tried to approach the subject but it's falling on deaf ears |
| 70s | and then she's very very angry |
| 73s | because we're trying to take away her independence |
| 75s | We've had so many people saying that -We were discussing this at the start of the program, |
| 80s | and here it is... Here's where the truth hurts |
| 82s | It really is difficult and you have to got to be really firm with your mom |
| 86s | I think all get together as a family |
| 89s | but first of all talk to your doctor |
| 91s | You know, doctors are supposed to really deal with this subject with their patients |
| 96s | But all too often they duck out of it as well |
| 99s | |
| 100s | There's no way to think she can drive after a cataract operation |
| 104s | |
| 105s | Maybe that will be like the interval, if you like, |
| 108s | that you can really work on persuading her that |
| 110s | she can't really go back to driving again |
| 112s | so talk to her doctor but then get the whole family together |
| 115s | so it isn't just one of you, sort of getting the bront of her anger |
| 119s | And really expect the sort of thing we had on the show today |
| 122s | She would feel so awful if she had a terrible accident |
| 125s | She could be hurt, she could really hurt somebody else |
| 129s | But really get in place beforehand all her thoughts about |
| 131s | how else is she gonna get around? |
| 133s | |
| 135s | You know, her situation, suddenly thinking |
| 136s | "Well I'm never gonna get out of the house!" |
| 138s | So really agree between you how you'll give her lifts |
| 141s | Check. Often a lot of areas, there's a dial-up service where they'll come and get you if you can't drive yourself |
| 146s | so that she knows your life doesn't end at that point |
