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| 25s | - We're gonna, you're gonna need to... |
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| 27s | - Scoot over a little bit. |
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| 32s | - Yeah I wonder when we did this. |
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| 42s | - We met in class, right? |
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| 45s | - Lot of mutual experiences, and mutual friends. |
| 47s | - Tole and I don't actually remember how we met (laughs). |
| 49s | - Yeah, that's, that's true, I don't know. |
| 51s | - Started hanging out and then we moved to Los Angeles. |
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| 56s | - Hey how's it going? - Hello. |
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| 61s | - Amanda, pleasure to meet you. |
| 62s | To be honest with you, this isn't the only reason |
| 63s | we've asked you here to share the story |
| 64s | of how you know each other. |
| 66s | I'm a body language expert. |
| 67s | All truth be told, I was analyzing your body language. |
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| 73s | - So we can speak a little bit about |
| 75s | some of what I watched, what I noticed. |
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| 78s | - I love that, that's great. - Awesome. |
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| 80s | First of all, I just want to point out to both |
| 81s | of you Stephanies that you're both |
| 83s | in what's called kind of a closed circle here. |
| 85s | Your kind of both crossed your legs over to the inside. |
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| 88s | - So you're creating this kind of bond between you |
| 91s | just simply to the visual image that we're seeing. |
| 93s | This, this sitting posture, look even how like you sit, |
| 95s | and then you had your arm over and around. |
| 97s | This is a gesture of kind of like support and strength. |
| 100s | So what you're sitting right now Caesar, |
| 101s | this is called the figure four sitting posture. |
| 104s | It's a power, intelligence, taking up space. |
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| 110s | - It's literally a commandeered this area, |
| 111s | this is your area, and you're protecting Amanda here |
| 114s | with your arm around her. |
| 115s | We have three power zones. |
| 116s | Neck dimple, belly button, and our naughty bits. |
| 119s | I don't know what else to to call the last. |
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| 122s | - But bottom-line is, the more open we are with those, |
| 124s | the more powerful we come across. |
| 125s | When we're doing this, or we're doing this, |
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| 128s | If I do this, then I'm, I'm you know I'm |
| 131s | diminishing my own power. |
| 133s | Amanda, you're doing something very cool like, |
| 134s | when he was talking you've turned toward him. |
| 137s | You've literally have faced your |
| 138s | belly button towards Caesar, |
| 140s | and we face our belly button toward people we like, |
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| 143s | We call it the belly button rule, |
| 145s | so you've very much given him your attention. |
| 148s | So Jasmine you do something very interesting too, |
| 149s | when you talk, you do what's called |
| 151s | a basketball steeple, right? |
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| 155s | This is a power, this is a power move called a steeple. |
| 158s | It's power, authority, and control. |
| 160s | But it's terrible for building rapport. |
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| 163s | You do the best of both worlds. |
| 165s | You're, you do this basketball steeple. |
| 167s | President Obama does this, Tim Cook, |
| 169s | Apple will do this, right? |
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| 172s | And so you do this a lot when you talk. |
| 174s | So it's power, authority, and control but with compassion. |
| 176s | Not only do you talk about it, |
| 177s | but we see it in your body language. |
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| 182s | - You're welcome. - Good to meet you. |
| 183s | - Thank you, so grateful to meet you guys. |
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| 185s | - I just learned a lot about myself. |
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| 187s | - Yeah whenever you're like super passionate about something |
| 189s | you always talk with your hands like this. |
| 190s | You really always do that. |
| 191s | - Yeah but I didn't realize I did that. |
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| 193s | - I didn't know that I just, you know I do it, |
| 195s | and she sits the way she sits or whatever, but I mean. |
| 197s | - Yeah that was kind of cool. |
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| 199s | - I know this about myself that I tend to cover my neck. |
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| 203s | - And I have no idea that it was, I was covering my power. |
| 206s | - It never hurts to ask like if somebody's |
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| 210s | - Or if they're like, feeling something else |
| 211s | other than what they're showing. |
| 213s | - I'm like, flabbergasted, but it's really cool. |
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| 218s | - So the next time we get in a fight, |
| 219s | I can use those things (laughs). |
| 222s | - It's good to be here with you, |
| 224s | and let's do it again sometime. |
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